We all want to live happy and fulfilling lives and we want the people we love to be happy too. So happiness matters to all of us. But many believe that happiness comes with “success”, in terms of a glittering career, big salary, beautiful house, expensive car and so on. Now, although these external things certainly don’t guarantee happiness (and often bring the opposite); there’s definitely some truth that we get satisfaction from our successful accomplishments but does it assure long-lasting happiness
Death bed regrets – Two most popular ones
- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my family and friends.
Too often we are caught in the “busy” trap, running, running, and running—but never getting much of anywhere. It’s easy to let personal relationships slide (especially if we’re working too much), but personal connections give life a meaning—not reports and promotions and pay raises.
Happiness is about our lives as a whole: it includes the fluctuating feelings we experience everyday, but also our overall satisfaction with life. It is influenced by our genes, upbringing and our external circumstances – such as our health, our work and our financial situation. But crucially, it is also heavily influenced by our choices – our inner attitudes, how we approach our relationships, our personal values and our sense of purpose.
Happiness, doesn’t have that much to do with the car you drive or the job you have or even the person you spend your life with. Happiness is actually a choice. Our happiness is not set in stone. Although our genes influence about 50% of the variation in our personal happiness, our circumstances (like income and environment) affect only about 10%. As much as 40% is accounted for by our daily activities and the conscious choices we make. So the good news is that our actions really can make a difference.If you were truly honest with yourself, which would be more important: working hard to earn all that money, or having a different lifestyle? With even a few conscious choices, you can tweak your lifestyle to make it possible.
During journey of my life, I have found few rules for finding happiness and success together, they are as follows
- Lots of little good things are the path to happiness. Spending money on many little pleasures beats rare big positives.
- Happiest people are those that are very busy but don’t feel rushed.
- Stay active — especially socializing, which makes us happier than almost anything else.
- Remember the good and forget the bad. So more good stuff makes for happier memories.
- Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., of the University of California,identified some key ways to improve happiness. – Be grateful, Be optimistic, Count your blessings, Use your strengths and Act kindly
Also, studies have shown, doing good to others is one of the best ways to feel good. People who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others. Studies have shown that giving money away tends to make people happier than spending it on themselves.
Following are the statements of successful HBS (Harvard business school) 79 batch pass-outs when asked about happiness and success.Not one saw wealth as the mark of a happy and fulfilled life
- “Happiness is having something to do, something to look forward to, and someone to love.”
- “When I think back over my career, I am struck that my fondest memories are of people rather than experiences, places, or accomplishments.”
- “Success is not about the accumulation of wealth and power. It is more about happiness, contentment, and satisfaction — for not only you but also your family.”
- “Success and wealth are being a lover and being loved.”
- “Success is using your tools and powers to enhance the lives and success of others.”
- “Those who persist in believing wealth brings happiness are to be pitied.”
- “Be publicly useful and privately happy.”
- “Taking pride and pleasure from having a positive effect on the lives of many people”
- “While I had a resume that included many significant accomplishments, I had lost touch with what I now know is essential to finding true happiness. Money, fame, and power are not the essence of either success or happiness. The satisfaction each provides is fleeting and often results in an insatiable need for more.”
- “With faith and love, of course, follows hope. These three virtues make for a happy life and are the only form of success worth living for.”
After reading above statements, one can easily conclude that these corporate big-shots after passing out from top b-school and living a lavish life, have arrived at a point where they can comment that money – success is not at all necessary for happiness. Studies have shown economic stability has a large effect on the happiness of society, while long-term economic growth has little. Happiness starts with “protected time” for your important people/work. Balance between your personal and professional life. Balance between health, wealth and relationship in your life.
“There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way” – Lord Buddha
For most of us, happiness always seems to be just around the corner, waiting for us after we achieve the next goal. Yet contrary to that train of thought, research suggests that happiness doesn’t come as a result of success, it actually helps fuel success. Happiness is a key ingredient to better performance, which leads to success. People who are happy tend to be more successful at whatever it is they’re doing – for example, they have better health, are more productive and have better relationships with others. Always remember there is no path to happiness, happiness is the path… And the same path leads to successful life.
“Nothing is permanent”
“Everything that has a beginning, has an ending”
– Lord Buddha
Above two quotes simplify the mystery of life, happiness and success. We come to this world empty-handed and will leave this world empty-handed. We are not going to take anything from this world/life to the next world/life. All this wealth, success and earthly possessions will be left here. Happiness begins when we start thinking with such ideology. The criteria of success changes according to our age, but always remember happiness is the path… so don’t postpone your happiness… be Happy today… Start living today!!