Acceptance is letting go, but it is difficult to accept and let go. There are stages to go through before you get to it. Your starting point is always a love/passion/hatred/greed, but something happens, some kind of a conflict or hard life circumstance, and you move into shock. The change causes you to feel a deep insecurity, which in turn leads to self-protective defensiveness, even anger. There’s a period of denial and some self-pity. You wonder how this could have happened to you. You don’t accept responsibility for the part you played; you run away for a time. But you find yourself missing the goodness and the love that you started out with, but seemed to have lost. This leads to sadness and regret. Continue reading “Letting Go – A path to happiness”
L.Buddha : Dear monks ..! Have u seen that people collect and carry, woods and leaves of this temple garden..?
Monks : Yes L.Buddha..
L.Buddha : So when u see it, do u think that they carry yourselves and going to burn and eat..?
Monks : No L.Buddha we don’t think like that..
L.Buddha : Why is that..?
Monks : Those things are not belong to us, that’s why…
L.Buddha: So as dear monks..This body your having can be taken away by death any given time, do you understand that..?
Monks : Yes L.Buddha, we will not be able to stopping death taking this body away..
L.Buddha: So it is correct to think this body is yours..?
Monks : No L.Buddha, that is incorrect..
L.Buddha: Dear monks…Always be mindful of the reality, that will be beneficial to all of us….
“We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and
ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love. We must look deeply in order to see and understand the needs, aspirations, and suffering of the person we love. This is the ground of real love.
You cannot resist loving another person when you really understand him or her.
From time to time, sit close to the one you love, hold his or her hand, and ask, ‘Darling, do I understand you enough? Or am I making you suffer? Please tell me so that I can learn to love you properly. I don’t want to make you suffer, and if I do so because of my ignorance,
please tell me so that I can love you better, so that you can be happy.”
If you say this in a voice that communicates your real openness to understand, the other person may cry.
That is a good sign, because it means the door of understanding is opening and everything will be possible again.
Maybe a father does not have time or is not brave enough to ask his son such a question. Then the love between them will not be as full as it could be. We need courage to ask these questions, but if we don’t ask, the more we love, the more we may destroy the people we are trying to love.
True love needs understanding. With understanding, the one we love will certainly flower.”
“Time passes unhindered. When we make mistakes, we cannot turn the clock back and try again. All we can do is use the present well.”
The purpose of religion
is to control yourself,
not to criticize others.
How much am I doing
about my anger, attachment,
hatred, pride and jealousy ?
These are the things which
we must check in our daily lives.
~ Dalai Lama ~
“I believe all suffering is caused by
ignorance. People inflict pain on
others in the selfish pursuit of their
happiness or satisfaction. Yet true
happiness comes from a sense of
inner peace and contentment, which
in turn must be achieved through
the cultivation of altruism, of love
and compassion and elimination of
ignorance, selfishness and greed.”
“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.”