Acceptance is letting go, but it is difficult to accept and let go. There are stages to go through before you get to it. Your starting point is always a love/passion/hatred/greed, but something happens, some kind of a conflict or hard life circumstance, and you move into shock. The change causes you to feel a deep insecurity, which in turn leads to self-protective defensiveness, even anger. There’s a period of denial and some self-pity. You wonder how this could have happened to you. You don’t accept responsibility for the part you played; you run away for a time. But you find yourself missing the goodness and the love that you started out with, but seemed to have lost. This leads to sadness and regret. Continue reading “Letting Go – A path to happiness”
What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it. This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning. A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. If he were to continue acting in such a way that the retribution cannot come about, because the conditions are not appropriate, then he may postpone the fruition of his karma. If he can suspend it until he is in the spirit world, then he may work at this particular karma in this intermission between death and next life. Or he may wait until another life in which he is more developed so that he can gleaned the educational value of this retribution. Conversely, his life could be so derelict that the blessings due to him cannot fructify until a later date or a subsequent life. All these fall into the category of suspension of karma to a more propitious period or life. Continue reading “The 12 Laws Of Karma”
Without realising it, many of our thought habits get in the way of our happiness and cause us to get stuck into negative patterns of thinking. Below we will look at 13 ways we can rewire our thoughts and minds into allowing ourselves to feel the happiness that we deserve, freeing us to live, love and be happy. We will look at how we can liberate ourselves from those thoughts and mental habits that hold us back and hold us down, we will look forward to a better, happier and more positive new us. Follow this advice and not only will you feel better but those around you will too, after all, only a lit candle can light other candles. Continue reading “13 Ways to be Happier”
It’s not destiny that decides you’ll be a sour face. Happy people work towards being that. Here’s how to do it
If you’re happy and you know it…goes an old children’s ditty. But are you? The pursuit of happiness isn’t easy — materialistic goodies do not guarantee a good life; close relationships, work satisfaction and working towards greater good do.
Sophie Keller, author of the How Happy series, says the secret to happiness is knowing you are already happy. “We’re human ‘beings’, not human ‘doings’ or ‘havings’, so happiness needs to be a ‘being state,” she says.
Here’s a simple break-up offered by writer Sonja Lyubomirsky in The How of Happiness: 50 per cent of our happiness levels are genetically determined, 10 per cent are affected by circumstances while the remaining 40 per cent is subject to self-control.
So how do you get happy? Here’s a don’t-do list to set you on the path to happiness.
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life.
At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days.
o Losing a pound of fat requires burning 3500 calories. If you reduce your caloric intake by 175 calories a day for the next 100 days, you’ll have lost 5 pounds in the next 100 days.
o For the next 100 days, eat five servings of vegetables every day.
o For the next 100 days, eat three servings of fruit of every day. Continue reading “Improve Your Life In The Next 100 Days – Health & Happiness”
Truth be told, happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it weren’t wrapped so tightly around your struggles. Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.
Here are a few reminders to help motivate you when you need it most:
1. Pain is part of growing. Continue reading “8 Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong”
You ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re hurting you. Here are a few examples of the latter that will steal your happiness if you let them:
1. Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.
Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating more. It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you. It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage. Continue reading “10 Little Habits that Steal Your Happiness”
1. Aiming for perfection.
Does life has to be perfect before you are happy?
Do you have to behave in a perfect way and get perfect results to be happy?
Then happiness will not be easy to find. Setting the bar for your performance at an inhuman level usually leads to low self-esteem and feeling like you are not good enough even though you may have had a lot of good or excellent results. You and what you do is never enough good enough except maybe once in a while when feels like something goes just perfect. Continue reading “7 Common Habits of Unhappy People”
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” ~Jim Rohn
Every time I reached a goal, it seemed like the next goal was where true happiness lay.
For the first time I saw the futility of our chase. I still believe that goals are important and we should strive to achieve them. But now, I see them more as mile markers in life’s journey, not having much to do with happiness.
Happiness, it turns out, is not something we go after. It’s something already within us. We just need to clear up some clutter to find it. Continue reading “16 Things to Let Go to Live a Truly Happy Life”
The teachings of the Buddha that we find in printed books or magazines can serve only as a road map does for an automobile driver. One has to study the map, digest the information therein, and above all, start the engine and go.
One will never reach the destination if one just looks at the map, enjoys its fine printing, but never determines the direction that leads to the destination; or after finding out which direction to go, never lets the car start moving. Buddha is a teacher. He uses His finger to point out the moon to us. But if one just looks at Buddha’s finger, one cannot see the moon. The finger serves simply to point us in the right direction. Once one follows that direction and sees the moon, the finger should be forgotten.!